Don’t Be Ghosted (or Do the Ghosting): What Happens When You Disappear in a Family Law Case

In October, we see ghosts everywhere: in decorations, costumes, and maybe even on our social feeds. But one place you don’t want to disappear is in the middle of your family law case. Whether it’s a divorce, paternity action, or custody dispute, going silent can have real consequences that haunt your case long after Halloween.

What “Ghosting” Looks Like in Family Law

In everyday life, ghosting means cutting off communication without warning. In a family law case, it can mean:

• Ignoring court orders, subpoenas, or deadlines

• Not responding to your attorney’s requests for information

• Failing to show up for mediation, depositions, or hearings

• Moving without updating your address or contact info

  
  

When that happens, the court may interpret your silence as a lack of cooperation, and that can cost you more than just a few sleepless nights.

The Legal Consequences of Disappearing

Florida courts take participation seriously, even if you are self-represented. If a party doesn’t respond to a subpoena or appear in court, the judge can:

• Enter a default judgment, deciding issues like custody, child support, or property division without your input.

• Issue sanctions or fines for failure to comply with discovery or mediation orders.

• Damage your credibility - something judges notice in future hearings.

  
  

If a party doesn't respond to their attorney, it can:

• Delay your case and increase your legal fees.

  
  

In other words, ghosting the process can cost time and money, and could even forfeit your chance to have a say in decisions that directly affect your life and, potentially, your children’s future.

What If They Ghost You?

Sometimes the tables are turned, and the other party disappears. If your spouse, co-parent, or former partner stops responding or fails to appear, your attorney can take steps such as:

• Filing a motion for default so your case can move forward

• Requesting enforcement orders for missed payments or visitation

• Using alternative service methods if the person is evading notice

  
  

You don’t have to stay stuck in a legal limbo; the court provides remedies when the other side goes missing.

Communication Is Key

Family law cases already involve emotional ups and downs. Staying in touch with your attorney, meeting deadlines, and following court instructions help protect your rights and your peace of mind. Even if circumstances change, communicating early can prevent bigger problems later.

Final Thought

Ghosts belong in haunted houses, not in courtrooms. Whether you’re tempted to disappear or dealing with someone who already has, don’t face it alone. The Law Office of Kristen Bishop Ames can help you stay visible, informed, and protected every step of the way.