First Day of School Tips for Divorced Parents: Keeping It Peaceful:

Kristen Bishop Ames, Esquire
Aug 10
2 min read

Updated: Aug 24

Happy First Day of School to all the families in our area! Whether your child is starting kindergarten, their senior year, or anywhere in between, the first day of school brings a fresh start and a flurry of emotions for students and parents alike. For divorced or separated parents, it can be challenging, so it's the perfect opportunity to model cooperation, calm, and consistency today, and throughout the year.

At The Law Office of Kristen Bishop Ames, we believe that peaceful parenting starts with preparation. These small but intentional steps can help your child feel supported and secure, even when family dynamics have changed.

Communicate Early and Respectfully

Your child will be bringing home lots of forms and communication from school this week. Whether it’s about school supplies, new clubs, or upcoming school photos, clear communication helps avoid last-minute tension. Plan ahead and keep your conversations respectful and focused on your child’s needs, not past conflicts.

📌 Tip: Use written communication tools like a co-parenting app or shared calendar to keep everything documented and easy to reference.

Don’t Use Your Child as a Messenger

Children should feel excited and supported during their school weeks, not caught in the middle of adult conversations or last-minute reminders. If something needs to be said, say it directly to the other parent, not through your child.

Use School Transitions as Neutral Exchange Points

Schools can be a helpful location for peaceful parenting transitions. If your parenting plan allows for it, consider using drop-off or pick-up as the exchange point; it can reduce tension and minimize the disruption to your child’s routine.

📌 Reminder: Keep the moment light and positive for your child: no emotional handoffs, arguments, or lingering. School is where your child learns and socializes, their zone where they focus on something other than family dynamics, keep it that way.

Keep Kids Out of the Luggage Loop

Avoid sending children to school with packed bags. It can make them feel self-conscious or burdened. If items need to be exchanged, find a discreet way to coordinate that between parents outside the school setting. Keeping two sets of clothes at each house helps ease the need for exchanging items.

Final Thought: Small Efforts Make a Big Difference

First-day-of-school jitters are normal, but your child’s emotional security can be strengthened by seeing their parents work together. A little planning, respectful communication, and a united front go a long way in setting a peaceful tone for the entire year.